Wake up middle of night feeling empty

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Wake up middle of night feeling empty

I had an in law, married for 20 years, with two children, one boy one girl. They have a three stories bungalow, husband sometime work out station, never heard of any misbehavior. No heavy debts that they need to repay, she also has a car, can travel anytime she wants, also has a motor bike, a cub. She wrote to my wife saying that she is not happy, she felt her husband don't love like he used to, when in fact her husband will came home and cook for her and the family meals that he tasted while he is away, he will always ask for recipe anytime he tasted anything good so that when he come home he can cook for his family to try. Many people will gladly exchange place with her, and here she was saying she is miserable and wanted to leave her husband, saying that love is gone.


When I ponder about her life, I don't know how to react, guess this is what they say anytime one can feel the emptiness in ones heart, wake up in the middle of the night, feeling lonely and lost and big hollow emptiness within one's heart. Think many will agree that they felt that too, and I used to believe that nobody can truly be satisfied with life, that the core of life is suffering, just like the Buddha say in his preaching of the first noble truth that life is suffering. I even go deeper study that the root of suffering is clinging or attachment. Many people become Buddhist monk because of that empty hollow feeling in the heart in the middle of the night. Now I know that it is not that complicated. Those who become monk after some years may find that the reason for them to become monk, actually is not a problem at all, insight they might say, oh! shoot! it's no problem after all, of course they might not announce it publicly, only think quietly to themselves.

Actually whatever one feels is only a feeling, the problem is we treat it as real and separated problem. Another reason is that we ignore the massage of the feeling, most of us try to be macho and leave our feeling as it is, we thought it might go away, and when it doesn't we thought that it is real. So when one ignore one's feeling, one would not analyse it, so one doesn't know the true nature of it. feeling is nothing but an indicator of the true essence of the thinking one hold, or are thinking at the time. yes thinking is important, much like the gauge of our fuel tank, it will point out to you whether your tank is full or empty, so it is unwise to ignore your indicator of your fuel gauge, like wise it is unwise to ignore your feeling. check your feeling, and once you find the reason behind those feeling, you will know that it is thinking in a certain way that cause you to feel that way, and now the solution is obvious, change whatever you are thinking right away towards a favorable direction for you, than you will find that the feeling change. Fill up your fuel tank and you will find your fuel gauge point to a different direction, and now everything is fine, there is nothing more to do on this and you can go about your daily happy life without changing much of anything physically, only until later that you'll find the physical surrounding has change for you. change to a better position that is.